I was just floored. I had always thought that most parents in America maybe wanted one sex or the other, but adjusted to love the baby they got. But they were serious.
As the doctor explained the process by which the sperm could be separated out by chromosomes, and how only the Y chromosomes could be used for the fertilization process, I was thinking. They want a boy, but they assume what they get will be a healthy child. In any pregnancy, disability is a possibility, but especially when the baby develops from older eggs. I couldn't imagine that they would tolerate a disabled child if they weren't willing to have a normal girl.
Furthermore, is it okay that we can make that happen? Would you like a boy or a girl? Blue eyes or brown? A cup of smart, a tablespoon of athleticism, and a pinch of musical talent? Because we can custom make a baby, just for you.
That line is blurring; what we can make versus what God (or whatever higher authority you prefer) gives us. I know that I don't feel comfortable as the physician being in the position to choose one viable embryo over another. I don't have it all figured out. I don't think there is a clear answer. For most educated and difficult dilemmas, things are not black and white but shades of gray.
Speaking of, would you like gray eyes?